Going through a divorce is difficult. Psychologists consider divorce as the second most stressful life event with the death of a spouse as the number one most stressful life event. There are some things you can do that will help you get through the process in the easiest way possible. Here are 6 tips that can help to make your divorce a little easier.
- Work with a therapist. The journey through a divorce is an emotional rollercoaster ride: It has its ups and downs. Your emotions during this time can be unpredictable. It is a huge transition to go through, especially if children are involved. Do yourself a big favor and get the help of a therapist as early in the process as possible. Use your therapist to work through your emotions so that you can be in the right mindset to make important decisions in your divorce.
- Trust the advice of the professionals you are working with and be organized in your work with them. For example, if you are working with a financial neutral who gives you a list of documents to gather, make sure you respond to that request in a timely and organized way. Be sure you provide everything that is needed or explain why some documents on the list are missing. Failure to listen to the professionals, and respond promptly can add cost and delay to your divorce.
- Meet with your attorney regularly. Let your attorney know your goals, your concerns, and what you hope to accomplish within the divorce. Use your attorney for legal questions and your other supports when your concerns are not related to the law.
- Consider your goals and the goals of your spouse. Make a list of what is most important to you. It is easy to get off track with the emotions of the divorce and get caught up in arguments that are not meaningful. If you have a written goals list, you can consult it and refocus when you feel like your divorce process has gotten off track. Be open to discussions about how you and your spouse can both meet your goals and go forward without animosity. The best result is obtained when both parties are satisfied with the outcome.
- Work to stay focused and on track. You want to use your time and your resources efficiently. Ignore the little stuff that is really not important. Consult your goals list to focus on what is important and what you can let go.
- Focus on what is best for your children. Work together to shield your children from all conflict. Many parents choose to communicate through divorce/family apps and shared calendars so that both parents have the information they need regarding the children. Do not speak ill of the other parent in front of your children. Do not allow others in your life to do so either.
Contact a Vermont Family Law Attorney
We assist divorcing couples to part without animosity in a respectful and supportive process. To learn more about how we can help, contact Corey Wood, family law attorney, for a confidential consultation.